Kamal Ghorui
As grown-ups, we measure celebration by grand decorations, perfectly planned functions and parties, or expensive gifts. But for the little ones, the size of the cake or the picture-perfect scene does not matter. For children, milestones like birthdays and anniversaries do not matter, what truly matters to them is the presence of their loved ones.Something similar is captured in a little boy’s birthday clip, which is now winning hearts on the internet. In the now-viral clip, a little boy is standing on a chair in front of his beautiful birthday cake. People can be heard singing “Happy Birthday” to the boy, but the cute child doesn’t look impressed by the star- shaped cake or the claps. Instead the boy is looking for something… or someone?“Papa!…?” the little kid asks like an adult. His expressions ask, “Where is papa?” Then again the kid looks at the cake and gestures with his hand, “no, no.” Without even uttering a sentence, the little kid conveys, “I won’t cut the cake without my dad.” It’s in the next moment that the kid’s eyes brighten up as he spots his dad. With excitement, he calls “Papa!” The adorable child then waves a “hello” to his dad and starts dancing with a wide smile, as if his celebration found a meaning only when he spotted his dad.Truly, when the child asked “where is my father,” he was trying to ask a deeper question: “Are you here with ME?” Even if the little boy didn’t know how to communicate with words, he used gestures and emotions to call his father.
What every parent should learn from the adorable clip
The mistake parents these days make is that they attempt to compensate for their absence with materialistic things. However, for children, the price of the gift or the size of the cake hardly matters. What they consider their presence is your presence. To grown ups this may seem like a small detail, but for children, these are what turn out to be their most precious memories. While a grown up will understand how important of a meeting you need to attend at your office, for a little child the meeting is like an enemy that’s keeping you away from them. And when you prioritise your child’s needs, they feel important.
How busy parents can show their presence
The most important thing parents need to understand is that their consistent presence is more important than their existence. A working parent may not have hours, but they surely have pockets of time. Ten minutes of undivided attention can mean more than an hour of distracted presence.Not just birthdays and celebrations, showing up at the child’s school function, especially where they are performing can make a big impact.Sometimes absence is unavoidable, at these times, how you handle the situation helps. Before the event, communicate to your child why you couldn’t be there, and later ask them about the event, go into details. Make them feel that their moments are equally special for you.
