Kamal Ghorui
In a system where marks feel like the ultimate benchmark, it’s natural for parents to hope their child stands out. But sometimes, the expectation takes the shape of pressure in a child’s mind, and certainly, the secret to success isn’t pressure, instead its perspective.Something similar was seen when CBSE Class 10 topper Ayusman Mohapatra’s father reacted to his son’s perfect 500/500 score. While the result grabbed the attention, it was Ayusman’s father’s response that truly stood out! Hailing from Odisha, Ayusman Mohapatra aced in the 10th class CBSE boards. Ayusman lives with his parents and grandparents. His father is a senior manager at Postal Bank and his mother is a homemaker.According to Ayusman, he started his preparation well before and completed his syllabus by October-November. Ayusman also credits his family for providing an environment where he could stay focused and disciplined.
Ayusman’s father told him; ‘‘Even if you score 33%, it’s okay’
Sharing how his family supported him, while speaking to Dainik Bhaskar, Ayusman Mohapatra revealed his father said, ‘Even if you score 33%, it’s okay.’His father’s words may sound too simple on the surface, but for children in a competitive setup, such words can carry a deep reassuring message.
Why Ayusman’s father’s words matter
With his words, Ayusman’s father gave his son the most powerful support a parent can offer. By normalising even the minimum outcome, his father created a space where fear had no role to play. This one phrase prioritised the child over any other achievement. The “it’s okay” made Ayusman feel so valued that even between all the overwhelming praises, he could remember this one sentence. When children feel secure and accepted regardless of outcomes, their mindset changes. They become more willing to put in effort, take responsibility, and stay consistent. In Ayusman’s case, the story was something similar. He prepared for his exams with genuine motivation. Most importantly, the boy didn’t lose himself while preparing for the boards, in fact Ayusman revealed that he doesn’t keep himself limited to his studies. The boy shared he still loves to learn art, plays musical instruments, and also takes part in sports activities. For Ayusman, scoring big wasn’t about meeting his parent’s expectations, instead it was about giving his best when he wanted to.
Why parental pressure can actually be detrimental
While expectations often come from a place of care, excessive pressure from a parent’s ends can do more harm than good. Over time such pressure can affect a child’s mental and emotional well-being. Another overlooked impact of pressure is how it shapes a child’s relationship with failure. When mistakes are not seen as acceptable, children may either become overly anxious or start avoiding challenges altogether.Additionally, constant pressure can also lead to burnout. Long study hours driven by fear rather than interest can exhaust a child mentally and emotionally.The ultimate lesson for parents here is that years later, their child will consider the marksheet as a mere document, but the feeling of being supported by the parents will stay with them. In the end, while marks may open doors, it is a parent’s words that build the confidence to walk through them.
