Kamal Ghorui
Months after filing a case against her husband Peter Haag, Celina Jaitly has once again opened up about the emotional realities of surviving an abusive marriage. The actress recently addressed a question often directed at survivors — “Why didn’t you just leave?” — sharing a deeply personal reflection on social media.
Celina reflects on why survivors don’t walk away immediately
In November 2025, Celina filed a case against her husband, Austrian entrepreneur and hotelier Peter Haag, before the Judicial Magistrate First Class court in Andheri, Mumbai. In her petition, she accused him of domestic violence, cruelty and manipulation, while also seeking Rs 50 crore and other financial compensation for the losses she claims to have suffered.On Saturday, the actress took to Instagram to address the complex question many survivors face.“Why does someone successful, educated, stay in an abusive marriage for 15 years?” she wrote. “I have asked myself that question. Why didn’t I walk away after the first incident? Or the second… third. Was I blind? Weak? Used to it?”Celina explained that abuse often begins subtly rather than with immediate violence.“The truth is harder than people think. Abuse rarely begins with violence. It begins with love. Intensity. Promises. The slow building of dependency. You believe you’re building a future. Then something shifts,” she wrote.She added that the cycle of apologies and hope often keeps survivors emotionally trapped. “There are good days. Apologies. Tears. Change that almost feels real. Hope — and hope is addictive. You begin surviving on small windows of it.”
‘Mental and verbal abuse leaves no bruises’
The actor also spoke about the psychological impact of abuse, explaining how confidence erodes gradually.“Mental and verbal abuse leaves no bruises. Confidence erodes quietly. You adjust. Then over-adjust. Then question yourself,” she wrote, adding that fear about breaking a family, hurting children or starting over often complicates the decision to leave.Celina said motherhood added another layer of responsibility and hesitation. Referring to her children as her “4G — four greatest gifts,” she explained that decisions were no longer just about her.“You protect childhoods. Stability. What you believe is safety. Achievement does not protect you from manipulation. Degrees don’t stop gaslighting. Public strength doesn’t prevent private erosion,” she wrote.
‘Abuse isn’t always physical’
The actress also emphasised that abuse can take many forms beyond physical violence.“#Abuse isn’t always physical. Sometimes it’s silence. Humiliation. Control. Isolation. Making you doubt your own memory,” she wrote, adding that she had experienced multiple forms of it.She urged people to reconsider the way society frames the question. “Instead of asking, ‘Why didn’t you just walk away?’ ask what keeps accomplished, intelligent men and women trapped for years. Not incapability… psychological warfare.” Ending her note on a message of solidarity, she wrote, “If you’re still there, I see you. If you left, I respect you. If you’re preparing quietly, I understand you. Strength doesn’t always look like leaving immediately. Sometimes it looks like surviving until you can.”Celina married Haag in 2010. The couple has three sons — twins Winston and Viraaj, born in 2012, and Arthur, born in 2017. Another son, Shamsher, passed away due to a heart condition.
