Kamal Ghorui
Another subtle sign is a child who suddenly works too hard for approval. They may become perfectionistic, anxious about mistakes, or desperate to be “good” in every setting. Teachers may describe them as mature for their age. Adults may praise them for being easy. But this kind of easy often has a cost.
When a child learns that attention comes mainly when they perform well, they may begin earning love instead of receiving it. They may shape themselves around what others want, hoping that being helpful, silent or impressive will keep them visible. Over time, that can create a child who looks composed on the outside but is deeply hungry for recognition on the inside.
Children rarely ask, “Do you see me?” in so many words. They ask through behavior, tone, silence and repetition. The challenge for adults is to look beyond the surface and notice the need underneath. A child does not need perfect parenting. They need attentive parenting, the kind that catches the small signals before they harden into louder ones. Because often, the quietest cries are the ones that matter most.
