Kamal Ghorui
A heart-wrenching Instagram video by a young mother has initiated an important conversation among people regarding the challenges faced by mothers during the toddler stage. In the reel, the mother breaks down while sharing her honest feelings with her followers. She discusses how overwhelming it can get for a mother when her child is extremely attached to her. The mother explains that her toddler does not allow her to stay away for even a minute. The toddler calls her throughout the day by saying “Mama Godi.” The mother confesses that her child does not allow her to go to the washroom or cook anything without her being by her side. The heart-wrenching message by the mother has been widely shared by people as a reminder that although the toddler stage is beautiful for mothers, it is also extremely demanding for them. No one talks about the toddler phaseThe mother starts her message by saying that no one discusses the challenges faced by mothers during the toddler stage. She explains that people always talk about the challenges faced by mothers during the newborn stage but do not mention the challenges faced by mothers during the toddler stage. The mother explains that her toddler calls her throughout the day by saying “mama godi.” The mother also explains that her toddler does not allow her to stay away for even a minute.
When separation anxiety becomes overwhelmingAccording to the mother, her child is currently undergoing a phase of extreme separation anxiety. She says that her toddler feels secure only if he is with her. He finds it extremely difficult to stay with anyone else, even his own father or grandmother. Even simple activities have become quite taxing, as the mother says that her toddler insists only on her to feed him, take him to the washroom, etc. She says that she is not getting even a moment to have a cup of tea or do her chores. This is one aspect of how toddlers develop a strong emotional bond with their parents, which sometimes becomes taxing.Love, trust, and exhaustion—all mixed togetherDespite feeling exhausted, the mother expresses how much love and understanding she has for her child. She says that she knows that this is all happening because of trust. She says that her toddler wants to stay with her because, to her toddler, she is security. But sometimes, this extreme attachment becomes taxing for parents. She says that she is always being touched, called, and needed. She says that she doesn’t even have any space left. Most viewers were happy with what she had to say, as they said that this was exactly how parents felt during this time.Here’s the video:‘Crying doesn’t mean I am weak’During one part of this reel, the mother is overcome with emotion and cries. She says that these tears don’t mean that she is a weak mother, but that crying is a natural reaction to any kind of stress or exhaustion. She also says that parents often feel as if they need to look strong and composed at all times, even if inside, they are struggling. By opening up about her own feelings, she hopes to normalise this emotion so that other parents might talk more openly about their own feelings rather than hiding them.A message asking people to be kinderThe reel concludes with a message to people around toddler parents. The mother asks people to be kind to mothers who are taking care of toddlers. She says that mothers of toddlers are going through a lot, both physically and emotionally, though this might not always be visible to others. She also says that though this phase of toddlers is a short phase, it can also be a very intense phase. Her message has inspired a lot of comments on social media, where other mothers have thanked her for speaking out on their unspoken feelings.
