Kamal Ghorui
Ever feel like workplace rules bend one way but not the other? You hustle late into the night, but heaven forbid you’re 10 minutes late—suddenly it’s a conversation. These unspoken boundaries get tested daily, often without fanfare. Recently, career coach Simon Ingari shared on social media a simple back-and-forth between a boss and employee that hit a nerve. It wasn’t a fight or drama at work; it was just real talk that reflects what many of us go through in modern offices, where mistakes get more attention than hard work. Day 1: Boss Calls Out Employee For Coming 10 Minutes LateHowever, the boss ignored the fact that the employee had worked till late a day before to finish his tasks.Fair enough, right? The employee owns the lateness but gently flags the imbalance. Late nights? Crickets. Morning slip? Red flag.Day 2: The On-Time ExitEmployee clocks out at exactly 5 PM sharp. When the boss asks about leaving early, the employee reminds them that the work hours are 9 to 5. And so, he is heading home as he is done with his work.Oof. The mirror gets held up. No attitude, just consistency. The employee isn’t slacking—they’re playing by the exact same rule book.The Flexibility Ask—and the Real TalkThat’s when the boss asked the employee for some flexibility in terms of their working hours. To this, the employee responded by saying, “Flexibility usually flows one way. When I stayed late, it wasn’t mentioned. Effort should count both ways.”Boss pauses. Recognition dawns (or should). It’s not rebellion; it’s a nudge for even-handedness.Why This Hits So Hard—And What It Teaches UsWhat makes this story gold isn’t the drama—it’s the calm clarity. The employee doesn’t dodge blame; they reflect the system back, exposing selective enforcement. Punctuality’s sacred? Cool, but so should be extra miles. Simon nails it: When mistakes get zoomed in but dedication fades to background noise, employees hear loud and clear—do the minimum, nothing more.This isn’t about score-keeping. It’s human nature. We all crave balance. Empathy costs zero but pays dividends: A quick “Thanks for staying late” builds loyalty. Ignore it, and you risk quiet quits from your most committed. In hustle culture, burnout is quite common. But it’s fairness that keeps employees going on.Psychologically, it’s reciprocity at play. Without it, people feel resentful. Managers, take note: Track wins too, not just gaps. Employees, speak up like this—politely, firmly. This leads to change.The Bigger LessonIf rules are non-negotiable one way, make them equal for all. Because one-directional flexibility breeds cynics. But mutual respect grows teams. Empathy isn’t fluffy—it’s smart retention. That employee mirroring policy? They’re teaching a masterclass in self-advocacy.Next time you’re in the hot seat, channel this poise. Workplaces thrive on trust, not transactions. Fairness isn’t extra; it’s essential. What’s your take—ever mirrored a boss’s rules back? Share below.
