Kamal Ghorui
In psychology, there is a concept called absolute limen. It is the smallest stimulus a person can detect— the faintest sound, the dimmest light, the slightest touch that enters awareness. It is the threshold of noticing.
But outside laboratories, we live by emotional limens too.
Each person carries in them a different threshold. Some learn love only after losing it. Others can recognise it in its quieter manifestations. Perhaps connection fails not because we care too little or too much, but because we assume that our limen is universal. It is often easy to forget that awareness itself has a scale. That pain, like sound, must cross a certain decibel before it can be heard. That love, like light, must reach a certain intensity before it can be seen. What we need to notice is where another’s noticing begins. And so, the experiment continues: the slow study of learning how much is enough for someone who is not you.
Closely tied to this concept is the idea of the difference limen— the smallest change required in a stimulus for the change to be perceived. It implies that noticing is not only about presence, but also about variation. Something may grow, intensify, or deteriorate, yet fail to be noticed if the change is not significant enough to cross the perceptual threshold. In lived experience, this might explain why distance builds without confrontation and how effort increases without acknowledgement. Something that goes unnoticed is not always insignificant, it is often simply subtle. Some things go unnoticed not out of indifference, but out of difference.
And even when something does cross this threshold, there is no guarantee that it will continue to be noticed. The mind has a tendency to adjust, to grow accustomed to whatever is repeatedly present. Habituation allows constant stimuli, which are perceived as “inconsequential”, to fade into the background of awareness. What was once distinct becomes softer with familiarly— not because it loses its value but because it loses its novelty. It is in our nature to notice disruption more than stability. Maybe that is why consistency is trusted less than intensity. What endures gets absorbed into the unnoticed, only to become visible again in its absence.
Still, beneath all these thresholds and patterns lies a more fundamental truth of our existence. We are not noticing the same world to begin with. Reality is already shaped— by experience, emotion and expectation, which serve as intervening variables in our “stimulus-response” comprehension of the world. Each person moves through a version of reality that is uniquely configured to them. The same moment may arrive differently, carrying a different weight, a different demand, a different urgency. A single sentence can be enough to comfort one person and unsettle another.
This makes noticing inherently subjective. It is not a fixed act, but an ongoing process of adjusting; of learning, relearning and unlearning; of familiarity and distinction; of generalisation and discrimination. It depends on us how we choose to bridge the gap between intention and interpretation. And in most cases, understanding remains unfinished not because we fail to care but because we are still slowly and imperfectly learning how to notice what has always been there, waiting to be seen.
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