Kamal Ghorui
“आरभ्यते न खलु विघ्नभयेन नीचैः,
आरभ्य विघ्नविहता विरमन्ति मध्याः।
विघ्नैः पुनः पुनरपि प्रतिहन्यमानाः,
प्रारभ्य उत्तमजनाः न परित्यजन्ति॥”
(The inferior never begins for fear of obstacles. The mediocre begin but stop when difficulties arise. The superior begins and, even after repeated setbacks, does not quit.)
This verse often echoes in my mind when I meet young people who feel afraid to restart. Last week, I met a Class 12 student whose pre-board results and undesirable performance in the initial board papers had shaken him deeply. His marks hurt him, but what hurt more was the hesitation to begin again. Slowly, he stopped studying. Days slipped into distractions, and with each passing day, his confidence faded a little more.
Many of us quietly live through such phases. We pause, we overthink, and sometimes we forget that life is not asking us to be perfect; it is only asking us to begin.
I remember a simple story that illustrates this beautifully. A cheerful young boy I know, fondly called Laddu Pintu, once decided to learn cycling. On the first day, he fell so many times that his knees were bruised and his confidence was shaken. By evening, he announced dramatically that cycling was “not for him.” The next morning, however, his father inspired him with a dose of motivation, and he returned with the same enthusiasm. Within a week, Laddu Pintu was riding with joy, waving proudly to everyone around. Years later, Laddu shares his learning: “Falling hurts less than not trying.”
There is wisdom in such childlike courage. The hardest part of any task is rarely the effort that follows; it is the decision to begin. A friend who once went bungee jumping told me something similar. He said the jump itself was not the toughest moment, but stepping off the platform was. That first step demanded everything.
Interestingly, research supports what life teaches us informally. Studies in behavioural psychology suggest that nearly 70% of people delay starting important tasks because of fear of failure or perfectionism. Another report by the American Psychological Association highlights that small beginnings significantly improve confidence levels, as completing even minor steps releases dopamine, the brain’s “feel-good” chemical. In simple terms, starting makes us feel better and feeling better helps us continue.
As a career counsellor and psychologist, I often see students waiting for the “perfect moment” to restart after the next test, after the next Monday, after the next motivational video. But life rarely works with perfect timing. Progress often begins quietly, with small, imperfect steps taken on ordinary days, rather than the expert ones.
If you reflect honestly, you may notice that your happiest moments were not necessarily your most successful ones. They were often the moments when you were moving forward with hope, preparing for an exam, learning something new, or chasing a dream without overthinking the outcome. Movement itself creates joy.
So how do we restart joyfully?
First, simplify your beginning. Do not aim to finish everything in a go. Just start. Open the book. Write one page. Walk for ten minutes. Action reduces anxiety faster than overthinking ever can.
Second, allow yourself to be imperfect. Growth is rarely neat. Every meaningful journey includes pauses, detours, and restarts. Accepting this truth makes the journey lighter.
Third, stay connected with encouraging people. Conversations with the right friends, teachers, or mentors can gently push you back into motion when you feel stuck.
Fourth, read good literature. This creates a long-lasting positive impact on your thoughts.
Above all, remind yourself that restarting is not a sign of weakness. It is a quiet form of courage. Each restart carries hope, and hope keeps life joyful.
If you feel you have paused somewhere along the way, do not worry too much about how long the pause lasted. Just begin again slowly, calmly, and cheerfully. Because in the end, happiness does not belong only to those who succeed; it belongs to those who keep moving ahead with a restart after every pause.
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